Well it's been a while, hasn't it. I've been doing school work, I suppose. Anyway, I'm back from a hiatus of...laziness, and I want to share something inspirational. If you haven't heard of TED and watched some TED talks I'm recommending, requesting, and pleading that you do. TED stands for Technology, Entertainment, Design. The organization hosts inspirational speakers in those three fields (as well as from others) to speak at conventions about their ideas. They are all interesting and you can learn about the recent developments of technology around the world as well as listen to some very inspirational people speak. Along with reading Science magazine, watching TED talks gives me one of the most potent intellectual highs I've ever had. So watch some TED talks and soon your friends will watch you, eyes ablaze and mouth running, talk about barefoot engineers, lie spotting, and bacterial clothing. Here's the link:
http://www.ted.com/.
I mentioned lie spotting, which is a talk given by Pamela Meyer, CEO of Simpatico Networks. She collected research on deception and wrote a book called
Liespotting. At TED, she talks about some ways to tell when someone is lying, so I took notes (whaaatt??!!-Burton Guster from Psych) and I have decided to post them cause they may be useful either if you're going to watch the video or if you'd like to know the tell-tale signs of a liar. The link to that video is here:
http://www.ted.com/talks/pamela_meyer_how_to_spot_a_liar.html
A few interesting things to know about lying from the video:
Lying is an attempt to connect what we wish we could be with who we really are.
Strangers lie three times withing 10 minutes of meeting each other.
We lie more to strangers than to coworkers, extroverts lie more than introverts, and men lie 8 times more about themselves than about other people. Women lie more to protect other people.
In the average married couple, one spouse will lie to the other in 1 out of every 10 interactions, while for unmarried couples that drops to 3.
And now notes on how to actually spot lies:
Trained liespotters are right 90% of the time.
There are good liars and bad liars, there are no real origin liars.
There are patterns that liars consistently follow:
Pattern #1: Verbal dodging
Non contracted denial: Saying "did not" instead of didn't. People who are overdetermined in their denial will resort to formal rather than informal language.
Distancing: While speaking, liars unconsciously distance themselves from their subject (for example saying "that woman" instead of simply saying her name).
Pattern #2: Body Language tips
Fidgeting: Contrary to popular thought, liars actually tend freeze their upper bodies. Liars also tend to look you in their eyes too much to compensate for the fact that people say liars have shifty eyes.
Fake smile: A person can't consciously contract eyes to make the crows feet of a real smile, so you can spot a fake smile by looking at the eyes. A fake smile won't have those smiling eyes.
The Hot Spots: attitude is the most overlooked but telling indicator. An honest person will
be cooperative, enthusiastic, willing and helpful to find the truth. They will brainstorm, name suspects, and provide details. An honest person will be infuriated throughout the entire interview (not just in flashes) if they sense they're being wrongly accused.
An honest person is more likely to suggest strict rather than lenient punishment for the perpetrator.
A liar will be withdrawn, look down, lower their voice, pause, be "herky-jerky", and provide way too much detail on irrelevant things. Liars tend to tell their story in strict chronological order, so one technique interrogators use is to ask them to tell their story backwards.
We rehearse our words but not our gestures, so sometimes a liar will shake his head no while saying yes.
Duping delight: a deceptive smile may give away a liar.
Contempt: an expression of contempt shows you've been dismissed and expresses moral superiority
Contempt looks like: one lip corner pulled up and in, it is the only asymmetrical expression.
Liars shift their blink rate, point their feet towards an exit, take barrier objects and put them between themself and the person who is interviewing them, and alter their vocal tone, often making it lower.
These are just behaviors, not proof of deception. They're red flags they don''t mean anything in and of
themselves. When you see clusters of these behaviors that's your signal of a liar.
Ask hard questions, get into curiosity mode, and treat the subject with dignity; don't be too aggressive.
Well I hope these notes are useful to somebody, either to use or to spark interest in TED. I'll end with a joke that Sanjit "Bunker" Roy used in a TED talk.
What's the best way of communicating in the world today? Television? No. Telegraph? No. Telephone? No.
Tell a woman.